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Growing Up.

Young or old everyone has some growing left to do. No one is fully evolved and open-minded in every aspect. You can always work and improve till your dying day.

But there’s something that needs to be addressed and boys and girls alike are guilty of this but I’ve seen it more present in boys, letting things go.

"Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." - Maya Angelou

I’ve always felt like boys were more selfish in their experimental years, like, 13-17, maybe a little younger or older depending on the person. But a lesson teenage boys could always learn is compassion. For those who don’t know the exact definition, compassion is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. Trying to understand and feel how another person would feel had you been in their shoes. Yes, you’re entitled to your experimental process. No one expects you to be a perfect human being at such a young age, let alone at all but you cannot go through life so utterly clueless of how you make other people feel. If you want to experiment, be single and experiment. Just because you got hurt early on does not mean you need to carry that emotional baggage with you for the rest of your life. It’s draining, we know it is, it’s obvious that you’re hurting no matter how hard you try to disguise it with being a “player”. Take the steps to find yourself outside the hurt, and be a better person. Imagine hurting your soulmate and running them away just because of the past hurt? You feel good about having that on your conscience? If you do I can’t help you after that, you have to make the decision to change but the least you could do is be honest about it.

And for my young ladies, do not excuse these boys for hurting you in the name of “he’s still young” they know exactly what they’re doing. We’ve started to normalize our mistreatment even more than our parents did. If he’s not showing interest, find someone who does. If he’s not loyal to you, find someone who is. In all honesty, women don’t NEED men, we want them. Since they don’t want to hear they must feel. If you’ve expressed your concerns more than once, they heard you babygirl & I promise you he does not care. Men truly bend over backward for who they really want, it’s in their nature. Focus on yourself, gain stability, and whatever is for you will come.

I didn’t write this to attack men either, there are some really great ones out there. They’re rare but they’re there. Learning to be a good person despite the hurt you’ve felt in the past is part of life. It’s an active choice to cast away negativity and CHOOSE to be good.

Just because you’re in a healing or experimental process doesn’t give you the right to hurt people. It’s super elementary but the golden rule is “do unto others as you would have done unto you”. Experimental process or not that karma is coming back to haunt you, all the negativity you put in the world will be returned to you.

To sum it all up, GROW UP and stop hurting people just because you’ve been hurt. Just stop.

Remember to love yourself, trust the process & live happier

LanaSpeaks, signing off 💕

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